I learned something so important that day. Confidence is everything. You’re probably thinking “but Dani, it’s not confidence..it’s appearance”. NOPE. It’s confidence. Because the thing is, if I feel like I look DAYUM good, I’m gonna act like I look DAYUM good. And with that attitude, the sky is truly the limit. I’ll be selling furniture for DAYYYYSSS.
Think about when you get a new haircut after a breakup. You look in the mirror and think “oh, shit! Who dis?” You’ve got some extra pep in your step, you’re feeling FIIINE and you can’t wait (as much as you might not want to admit) to post that selfie on Facebook. You’re feelin’ brand new and you can’t even hide it.
THAT is how I feel when I dress myself well, throw on a pair of heels, and finally put on a sexy shade of red lipstick after trying on the other 72 shades….(a case of the perfection-isms).
So, after this eye-opening trip with my manager, I decided to made a few changes.
I do not (and will never) promote changing your appearance to make someone else happy. This is about making yourself happy. This is about feeling confident in YOURSELF.
My first step were my outfits. I had graduated college just one short year before this time and I didn’t exactly know how to dress for the job I had. Struggling with confidence issues my whole life, I would only buy clothes that were big and loose (I’m also a huge fan of comfort) and the oversized Urban Outfitters sweaters and tops just weren’t going to cut it. With the help of a coworker and close friend, Michael, I learned how to dress myself for my body type. I went to Michael because I knew he could give me a few things. The first, the gentle truth. Give it to me straight, Mikey. And he did.
One“issue” for me at this time was that I looked VERY young for my age. Only 23, I looked 19. I’ve always just looked young for my age, which I’ve heard (5000 times I might add) that one day I’m going to LOVE it. And, I’m sure they’re right. There were several occasions where walk-in customers actually asked my manager for a different designer because I just looked so young. I remember being so hurt…I thought “I have a design degree..I can do this!” And I could. But they didn’t know that.
Michael (in all his glorious honesty) explained to me that not only did I look young, but I was also dressed young. **Makeover ensues**
I started doing some research….
With Michael’s help, I found several “perfect” outfits and ordered them. NEXT, SHOES. Because…well, shoes.
I never had a problem being “stylish” growing up. But at that point in my life I just wasn’t doing it right for my job or my age.